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SECRETS TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE

By Carrie | 2009/07/06 16:45 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

Review of: Save My Marriage Today

Hi there,

I got the opportunity to review Save My Marriage Today by Amy Waterman. At first I was skeptical, but I thought, hey, I have friends who are in bad marriages, and this information might be good for one of them, so I decided to read it closely and see what insights it could offer me about reconnecting and improving relationships.

You can check it out at http://www.savemymarriagetoday.com

By the time I had finished, I was hooked! I realized for the first time, that this book would be absolutely essential for couples who are serious about solving their marital difficulties, and I don’t just mean young couples either. This book applies to couples young and old. No matter what your marriage situation, if you are male or female, or how many years you have been married, there are tips and tools that can assist every couple with developing sound communication and conflict resolution techniques…..Read more …Click Here!

How to Have a Happy and Strong Relationship – Create Intimacy

By Carrie | 2010/01/26 22:19 Posted in Articles | Comments (0)

Communication Skills – The Number One Key to Any Relationship

Communication Skills Are Necessary for Strong Relationships.

Has anyone ever told you that statement? Chances are you have heard it more than one time. Do you know why? Because it is very true. In order to have a great relationship, especially a marriage, it is going to take communication. This doesn’t mean making an effort once a week to communicate.

In early relationships, often poor communication problems will go unnoticed. At this point, the physical and emotional aspects of the relationship will command most of your thoughts.

Have you paid attention to what experts have said lately about this matter? In order to build a strong relationship that will last a long time, you will need to talk to your partner.

It is true that the men have always gotten the rap of not communicating well with their partners. In general, there is some truth to this. But keep in mind that some men out there that are great at communicating. Even women can be poor communicators.

Since those prehistoric times, men have been looked at as being that silent, strong type who is there in order to get things done. Me believe that they are showing signs of weakness whenever they express their feelings.

When it comes to women, many of them do not have a problem with telling everyone how they feel. They wish their men could be more like them ad when they don’t want to sit and talk every detail out, they feel like they are unappreciated.

In fact, when a woman sees a man that is not able to express himself, she often won’t get involved with him. Whatever you do, as you are in a relationship, you need to remember that communications skills are vital to make a relationship happy and strong.

What is the ONE THING you can to keep your relationship fresh and new life into it? Find out at Happy Relationships.

Fear of Intimacy – How to Overcome It and Have a Closer Relationship

By Carrie | 2009/06/22 21:35 Posted in Articles, Create Intimacy | Comments (0)

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Would you describe your relationship as intimate? You may be thinking of sex, which is definitely an intimate act, but not the definition of intimate.

It’s almost a cliche that men fear intimacy, but it’s not always true and it doesn’t have to be for you. While men may have a bit more trouble with sharing their inner feelings than women, women are not immune to it.

Do you even want intimacy? Some couples are comfortable having a more superficial relationship. They relate on a more surface level and seem to be happy with that. If you are in that place and are thinking something is missing, it’s likely that you are missing a deeper level of connecting.

How to define true intimacy:

Personal conversations on a regular basis
Mutual trust
Ability to rely on each other’s confidentiality
A deep emotional connection
Emotional exposure
Both people open – become vulnerable

People desire closeness to different degrees. Those who want it and go after it are happier and better adjusted in their marriage and in their work.

How to develop intimacy:

Use our feelings for good – we need to identify our feelings and be able to express them. In addition, if your partner is able to express their feelings to you it’s important not to judge them or criticize them. By accepting them you enter into a deeper understanding of each other.

Self-awareness – Once you can understand your feelings, thoughts, needs, and behaviors you are much closer to being able to understand those of your partner. Being able to share these with your lover builds closeness. This awareness should help you be in tune with others needs and is the opposite of being self-absorbed. Becoming attuned to ourselves may show us that that there are changes that need to be made, which will help negative behaviors as well.

Compassion and empathy - Showing empathy means being able to experience “walking in their shoes”, not just being sympathic to them. Your partner will feel like you really understand them and are there for them. You may need to work on learning and practicing true empathy. It calls for you to be genuine, really listen to your partner and not be judgmental. It really can be learned and you will be able to be compassionate when your partner needs it.

You may have to work hard at getting intimate with your partner. It takes practice. A willing heart and attitude goes a long way. If you are craving more closeness and connectedness in your relationship, it is worth working on it.

Maybe you feel like you are the only one trying? That you’re just not getting through to your partner? Follow this link: Fear of Intimacy to learn how to reconnect with your lover no matter how stubborn or distant they are and no matter how hopeless or difficult your situation seems.

Getting CPR For Marriage In Crisis – Save Your Marriage from Dying

By Carrie | 2009/06/22 18:21 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

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Do you remember your first kiss? When everything was so shiny and new and your relationship was so exciting and full of hope? That’s one of the reasons that it’s sad to see a marriage in crisis. You may wonder what has happened to all that hope and hearts bursting with love for each other.

When you first get married, you are just starting on your journey together. It’s hard to imagine that anything could drive you apart. When hard times come along your marriage may start to struggle. Couples can drift apart at times like these, but if you don’t want your marriage to die out, then you may need to get some C.P.R.

What you can do:

Go to Counseling:

Surprisingly counseling is often overlooked as a way to help. Counseling can not only help two people resolve conflicts but also help work out ways to grow closer to each other. Having a third party that is objective can help you come to an understanding of each other.

Counseling also offers a neutral ground to express yourself without it seeming to the other person that you are personally attacking them. You may uncover more serious issues in one spouse that will require more intense therapy. Sometimes one on one therapy may be needed in order to save your marriage.

You Need Perspective:

It can be hard to get perspective on what is happening when your marriage is in crisis. A marriage counselor can give you another perspective and help you more fully understand what is happening. You may think that you see everything clearly, but seeing things from a different angle will help you look at things from another point of view. It can help you gain the clarity you need to make sense of things.

You Need Resolve:

Getting some perspective on your situation and some help from a counselor can give you information and ideas to work on. Having a plan in mind that both parties are willing to work at, can get you started with repairing the damage to your marriage. It’s true that that knowing the problem is half the battle, but without the commitment to fight the battle, it won’t be won.

Think of it this way: you see someone drowning and you know how to save them because you not only can swim, but you know CPR. Will your knowledge save them from drowning? It will only if you act upon it.

Your marriage is the same way. It is going to take you taking action to resolve the issues plaguing your marriage. So, if you want to save your marriage in crisis, you must act to make things better.

To get some simple, easy to use strategies to solve almost any marital conflict go here: Save My Marriage Today!

7 Tips That Can Help Save a Relationship

By Carrie | 2009/06/21 22:12 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

A couple in trouble: Steve has a demanding job and works long hours, which leaves Sarah feeling like he isn’t there for her. In turn, Sarah spends her days with the kids meeting their needs and Steve feels Sarah doesn’t have much time for him or care about his needs. What needs to be done to salvage this relationship? Should their marriage be saved? Check out these steps on how to save a relationship.

Decide if your relationship is worth saving. Both people need to want to make it work. It may take some work to save a marriage, and both partners must want to make it work. You can’t go it alone.
Define your reasons for staying in the relationship. Sometimes people stay because of children or because it’s convenient. That isn’t enough. Both of you have to be committed and believe your marriage is worth fighting for.
Find out what the problems are so you can work on them. It can be easy to focus on the symptoms and overlook the actual problem. For example, if a partner has an affair, then that may be looked upon as what caused a break up. In actuality, the affair indicates a deeper problem, like a lack of intimacy. Staying together without dealing with the intimacy problem is just asking for more trouble.
Once you have determined the real root of your problems then it’s a lot easier to communicate and share your thoughts and feelings. This takes each person opening up and verbalizing their feelings and really listening to their partner as well.
You have to be willing to open yourself up. Getting to the root of things may mean having to hear things from your partner than may hurt you. Or vice versa. This is not the time to become defensive, you both need to keep sight of your goal of trying to improve your marriage.Something as simple as holding your spouse’s hand while you are talking can help you stay connected even when things become emotional.
Next, is to make a plan of action. Figure out what steps you are going to take. Need more time together? Make Saturday night your date night, for example, and have some fun ideas of what you can do together. Maybe you feel like you are missing out on communicating with each other? Plan 15 minutes before bedtime as your time just to sit and talk with each other. And, stick to it. Get the idea?
Lastly, don’t forget that it will be an ongoing process to have a close relationship. Sometimes you will take a step or two back. But if you are working together, you should have more forward steps than backward ones. There will be times when you laugh, and times when you will cry. Be slow to blame your loved one and don’t be afraid to say you’re sorry.

These are key things to remember if you want to know how to save a relationship. Sometimes we all need a little help along the way – and help to get our focus on what brought us together with our partners. It can be easy to lose sight of why you fell in love with each other in the first place.

Rescue your relationship with some simple, easy strategies. Visit SaveMyMarriageToday.com and find the tactics that will solve almost any marriage conflicts.

50 Secrets To Blissful Relationships – Book Review

By Carrie | 2009/06/21 21:50 Posted in Articles, Create Intimacy | Comments (0)

Let’s face it, there are thousands of marriage counselors and millions of relationship self-help books. So what makes 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships by Michael Webb any different?

You can check it out at: 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships

First of all, it’s great to see that, unlike many other authors, Michael Webb let’s you inside his world. You get real-life examples of ways to solve relationship challenges, all based on his own personal life.

Second, unlike many other “experts” and marriage counselors, Michael Webb walks the walk. Michael Webb has never had a fight with his wife of 15 years, Athena. Inside this book, you learn exactly what he’s done to make this a reality...READ MORE….CLICK HERE!

The Magic of Making Up Review

By Carrie | 2009/06/18 21:13 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

If You Follow the Steps In The Magic of Making Up

You Will Get Your Ex Back!

Do you feel like you’ve lost all hope for future happiness? While that may sound dramatic, it’s a very real feeling if you broke up with your lover. If you’re like me when I got dumped, you are desperate for advice, any advice that will get you back with your ex. I want to share my thoughts on this book with you since it guarantees you will get your ex back if you follow the steps in the book!

The Magic of Making Up explains what mistakes people make after a breakup and why doing those things will drive your ex further away. For example, if you are texting them, calling them or emailing them all the time this is a big turn-off and makes your ex want to avoid you. Most of us have a compelling desire to try and get them to understand, because if you could just explain how much they mean to you they would let you come back – at least in our minds. Find out how the Magic of Making up will show you what you can do that will win back your ex…READ THE REST HERE…..CLICK HERE!

5 Ways to Rebuild Trust After an Affair and Save Your Relationship

By Carrie | 2009/06/15 15:22 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

There is good and bad news if you are wondering if your relationship has a chance to survive after an affair. You’ll have to realize that it begins with you. When you cheated you destroyed trust, which is essential in any relationship. So, you’re probably wondering what the good news is. Take heart in knowing that it may be possible to recover your relationship. The bad part is that you are going to have to work to win your lover back.

Steps to Rebuilding trust:

1. The very first step is to vow to never have an affair again. If you cannot abstain from cheating, then your relationship does not have a chance. This article is written to help those who are serious about changing and making things right. Only then will you have a chance to save your relationship.

2. Next, if your partner doesn’t know, you need to admit that you had an affair. Even though it will really hurt them, you can’t live a lie and have trust in your relationship. In any case, the truth is likely to come out and it will be much worse if it comes from someone else instead of you. Keeping your affair a secret will only destroy your chances of staying in the relationship.

3. You will need to eat crow and accept the blame. Even if you feel that your partner caused you to want to cheat, there is nothing to be gained by blaming them. YOu have to own up to your own misdeeds. You need to get past the natural tendency people have to rationalize their wrong behaviors and come up with excuses.

4. You need to humbly apologize to your partner. No excuses, no explanations, just a real apology and a complete admission of wrongdoing is what is called for. You want them to know that you genuinely regret what you did and are honestly repentant.

5. Don’t push them, let them have their space. Your lover needs time to react, and deal with the hurt and pain of betrayal. You can’t force them to forgive you until they are ready to. Let them know you are there for them and are on their side by not forcing the issue. Trying to force things will only push them away.

You will have to accept that your relationship will be different after an affair. Think of it as getting a fresh start for your relationship. Rebuilding and winning their trust back will take time and patience.Your best shot will be to play it cool and have a step-by-step plan.

Find out what steps you can take for your best shot at winning your partner back here: Save your relationship.