Save Your Marriage

If You Don’t Want Divorce then Don’t Consider It

By Diane | 2010/05/05 23:10 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

At the start of a marriage no one is anticipating it to fail. To a lot of couples divorce equals failure. They don’t want divorce and truthfully if divorce is not a consideration whenever problems crop up then couples tend to resolve their issues and strengthen their marriage.

If you happen to be having problems that are making you think about divorce try to find alternatives that promote solving them by communicating openly and truthfully with your partner. Or at least try marriage counseling, which could avoid all the pain and effort involved in divorcing your spouse.

When others hear that you are having marriage trouble, many couples get unsolicited advice from friends and coworkers that they really don’t want. To them, a divorce could seem like a quick fix when in truth it can simply add to your problems rather than fixing them. While you appreciate the support and advice offered by your friends, keep in mind that this is your marriage, not theirs.

There are some 80% of couples surveyed who decided to stick it out that at some point in their marriage considered divorce who claim that they are happily married years later.

Couples who choose to deal with their problems may find a constructive solution and common ground. Although this can be hard work and is not as easy as a divorce appears to be in fixing problems, workiung together and facing issues can be much more rewarding.

Marriage is a team of two players. When both players are actively working towards solutions to their problems and refuse to consider divorce as an option, resolutions can be found for their differences. This will strengthen their marriage as you will be working towards something better rather than looking for a way to cut your losses and run.

If you remove divorce as an option and resolve to work through your differences, you can make your marriage work. It will give you the motivation to work to improve your relationship through understanding and communication. By listening to each other and finding ways to compromise that benefit the both of you; you can build a marriage that will last for years to come.

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Ways That Marriage Counseling Can Save a Marriage in Crisis

By Diane | 2010/05/04 22:49 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

All marriages have their ups and downs. Husbands and wives may have to endure severe trials in their marriage such as, chronic illnesses, unfaithfulness, deaths in the family or national disasters. Some marriages hold strong during any ups and downs; others begin to crumble. For any marriage in crisis, however, marital counseling can help.

Every marriage is unique, as well as the way in which that couple deals with problems and issues will be unique. However, there are several signs which are common to all marriages-signs which point toward trouble brewing in the relationship. The earlier a couple begins to recognize the signs, the earlier the couple can begin marriage counseling. And, the sooner the couple starts counseling, the better the couple’s chances of saving their marriage.

Here are some of the warning signs that show a marriage may be headed toward crisis:

• The couple bickers, nags, and nitpicks each other a great deal.

• The couple doesn’t fight fairly.

• The couple tends to spend a good deal of time apart, doing activities separately because they tend to have more fun than doing things together.

• The couple doesn’t talk about problems together. One member of the couple may be unaware of household issues or problems with the children that the other couple member handles, for instance.

• The couple no longer agrees on long-term goals and values, either for themselves or for the family as a whole.

• The couple intimacy level is low or non existent.

• The couple doesn’t talk much. The husband and wife mqy not even know what is happening when their partner is dealing with something significant at work, for example.

Marriage counseling can help couples who are having any of the above issues. Counseling can also assist couples who are in crisis for other reasons. There is no reason for a couple to stay in an unhappy marriage; yet people who head straight for separation or divorce without trying to first make the marriage work through the use of marital counseling may be throwing in the towel without giving their marriage a fair chance.

Professional marriage counselors have experience in working with couples who have gone through all types of difficulties. Counselors can assist couples in dealing with infidelity, spending issues, problems with family and children, differences in faith, and much more.

Couples who attend marriage counseling learn the following:

• How to resolve conflict by listening effectively.
• How to tell each other your needs without resentment or anger.
• How to get what is needed in the relationship without making demands
• How to work through unresolved issues in the marriage
• How to understand each others needs-and how to meet those needs

Marriage counseling works best if couples go as soon as they begin having problems in their marriage. You can avoid your problems getting bigger and harder to solve as well as drifting further apart if you don’t put off seeking help.

f both of you are committed to making things work, you can make great progress.Sometimes it seems like you are the only one trying so check out these other tips to reconnect with your spouse no matter how stubborn or distant they seem at: save my marriage.

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Can My Wife Love Me Again – What Convinces a Woman

By Diane | 2010/04/10 22:52 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

Have you come to that bad spot in your marriage where you are asking “can my wife love me again”? While every couple is different this is a common problem that many husbands face at one time or another in their marriages. Check out these tips that can give you a head start on fixing your problem.

Work on your mind set. You are not a very appealing person to be around if you are feeling down or carrying a lot of negative emotions around all the time. To help change your mindset think back about the good times you and your wife have experience. Remember back to the beginning and how much in love you both were. That’s the feeling you want to recapture. You need to “woo” your wife all over again – only this time you have the advantage of knowing her even better than you did at the beginning.
After you can feel a little more positive, look objectively at why you think she is being distant or even separated from you. Did you take her for granted and not show your appreciation by thanking her for all the things she did? Also, it’s all too easy to get comfortable with each other and not show your love outwardly .
Women have a huge need to feel they are special and loved and that you will take care of their needs. You will be surprised at how much saying a sincere “I love you” while gazing into her eyes will mean to her and how she perceives you feel about her. Again, this is something guys tend to overlook or if they do say it, it’s kind of just thrown in at the end of a phone conversation or something like that. A heartfelt declaration of love may be just what your wife needs to hear from you.
Don’t forget to ask yourself how your behavior may be causing her to distance herself from you. Not showing her respect or treating her badly in other ways – this could be any number of things may be the problem. Cheating on her is at the top of that list.If you are guilty of any of these you will have to change your behavior.
Women are sensitive creatures and being too harsh or even brusque with them can really hurt your wife’s feelings. You may have thick skin and those type of things don’t really register with you, but being insensitive with your comments will make a woman shut down towards you. Yelling at her for example, will really kill any positive emotions towards you.So, you can’t just ask “can my wife love me again” without making changes in your own behavior first.

I’m sure that the thought of losing your loved one is frightening, especially if you’ve been together very long and want to spend the rest of your life with your woman. Hopefully these tips will help you see clearly what to do to win back your wife’s love. Whatever your situation is, it’s never to late to start again with a brand new slate and put your family back together.

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How Do I Get My Wife to Come Back Home When I Can’t Live Without Her?

By Carrie | 2010/04/06 21:20 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

When your marriage breaks up it can feel like your life is falling apart. You may know that there are changes that you need to make in your behavior but first you need to find out how do I get my wife to come back home? You can’t work things out until she is home.

You will want to have a game plan of how you plan to make changes. It won’t do much good for your wife to come back and your problems start repeating all over again. I’m afraid the changes have to start with you and unless you are honestly ready to begin making them your marriage doesn’t stand much of a chance.

Here are some steps to help you convince your wife that you still love her and there is hope for your relationship and that she should return home:

The first thing is to let her know that you’ve come to realize that there are things in your behavior that you are willing, and able, to change. Let her know that you are a sincere, mature man who wants to be a better man and a better husband and that you are willing to work on those things. If she has real reason to believe things can be different this time she’ll be more likely to return home and give it a try.
Going into ‘bachelor mode’ and living like a pig is a bad idea. Keep the house clean, do the laundry and the dishes. Take care of yourself and shower and shave. You don’t want her to step one foot inside the house and turn and run away. She is not the maid or your mother. Most women want a friend, a partner, and a lover. Let her see that even though you miss her, you respect her enough to keep up with the housework even when you’re on your own.
If you’re wrong, admit it and apologize. It’s easy for men to think they are too macho to apologize and that is a sign of weakness. Nothing could be further from the truth. If you screw up and admit it and apologize that is actually a sign of confidence, strength, and maturity.

Being able to apologize and admit you are wrong lets others know that you are a mature, confidant person, and shows that you have respect for yourself and for them.

In actuality people who refuse to admit they are wrong or apologize are weak and insecure. They are too unsure of themselves to be able to admit they were wrong. You prove the opposite when you offer a sincere apology and women find men sexy who are strong and confident.

These steps are to get you started on answering the question: “how do I get my wife to come back home?” It comes down to if you are willing to put the work into making your marriage work – it takes two.

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My Husband Wants a Separation – In Case of Relationship Emergency – Don’t Call 911!

By Carrie | 2010/04/02 09:01 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

This is an excellent article that I had to share with you

by T Dub Jackson, author of <<The Magic Of Making Up System>>

You smell the smoke, hear the crackle of a flame and
start to swoon from the searing heat.

and…

You suspect there’s about to be a raging fire.

But the fire and carnage you fear won’t be from
any material possessions lost, but from something much
more precious, a once loving relationship going up in flames.

No matter what issue set your fire ablaze, many
of us don’t know where or how to begin applying
the water to put the fire out.

In fact…

Unlike a real fire where a fireman first looks to
find, attack and cool the source of the fire (if possible).

Many times attacking the center of the heat is the WRONG approach to take
when trying to extinguish our relationship problems and fires.

For example, let’s imagine that since this ‘recession’
your relationship has flamed up some worrisome financial fires.

Not too hard to imagine these days?

These may start as little brush fires, small issues and arguments
over how and where money is being spent…or not spent.

Then, maybe because of the heat and pressure of these
financial fires one partner starts ‘escaping’ more than
is healthy for the relationship.

He escapes into TV, Video Games, Alcohol, Cyber
Porn…or worse?

Now…what do we have?

We’ve got two fires smoldering away and soon to be a third because
the other partner is starting to feel lonely and isolated.

Can you almost feel the pressure?

Feel it coming to a boil?

Now with three fires off to a crackling start there’s
even greater risk of fire and damage spreading to other areas.

So? Just which fire do we put out first?

Our financial fire? Our financial blaze seems pretty tough to
extinguish right now and not likely to die soon.

So maybe we should start with the escapism? That seems
like an easy fire to put out…IF you’re not the one escaping!

…and try telling someone that’s feeling lonely and isolated
that “they should just snap out of it” is like throwing fuel
into the fire.

So where do we begin when we don’t see any
good place to start? And we finally realize that
trying to stomp out all our blazes at once actually spreads
the fire?…FASTER!

The answer is…

Unlike fighting a REAL fire, we start where there
IS NO FIRE.

Yes, start where there is absolutely no smoke, no heat
and no flame.

What we need to do is stop focusing on the problem(s)
and focus on where we still have passion…even if
it’s just a little.

Find even the tiniest things you both enjoy doing
together, ACTIVELY put your problems aside and begin to
rebuild the passion between you.

And do you know what invariably happens? Often once you’ve
rekindled the passion between you…the PROBLEMS will often work
themselves out.

The fires extinguish themselves.

Here’s how it may play out using our example;

Tom and Cindy both love cooking together.

They both actively decide to let their problems
go and NOT worry about them for awhile, but to start
by cooking dinner together and EATING together at
the dinner table…EVERY night.

Often because they’ve had such a great time cooking
and eating together…they play some cards or monopoly
afterwards and share some laughs and have a little fun.

Now, because Cindy isn’t feeling so isolated because
Tom’s always watching TV or surfing the web…

That little bit of fun turns into love making a little
more often.

Which in part…leads to…

Tom starting to feel better, finds new confidence,
and as his confidence builds… Tom gets more assertive
about finding work.

Soon…

Tom lands what maybe not the best job in the world, but one
that relieves a lot of the financial pressure until he
can find his perfect fit.

And before your very eyes…

Where Tom and Cindy’s relationship was about to burst
into flames…

Now, they are rising from the rubble with
a stronger and more fire proof marriage than ever before.

The moral of the story is that with enough PASSION
couples can overcome most any problem including affairs, drug use,
even death in the family.

But when there is very little passion even the tiniest
problems…become big, out of control, blazing fires.

Now if you’re reading this, but feel that an out
of control fire has already ‘gutted’ and put an end to your
relationship. You may find it comforting to know that there
may be a second chance for you?

I’ve made some amazing new breakthroughs in the human
love, bonding and REBONDING process.

Many of these breakthroughs are just as counterintuitive
as the technique I’ve just handed you here.

I’ve made a special video with you in mind where I share
one of my counterintuitive rebonding techniques.

You’re invited to watch here:

<<HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK VIDEO>>

While I’m a little bumbly and no Brad Pitt on camera…

…the video has been watched over 893,000 times (rated 4 1/2 stars) and
it’s rare for a day to go by where I don’t receive a really heart
warming note from someone that has put their relationship back
together after going through hell and fearing they’d never
find their way back.

Hope it helps you too:-)

T Dub Jackson
MagicOfMakingUp.com

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Save My Marriage Today Ebook Review

By Carrie | 2009/07/06 16:45 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

Honest Review of: Save My Marriage Today

Our research team has taken an objective look at Amy Waterman’s Save My Marriage Today ebook. This is the results of what we found, including customer feedback:

Save My Marriage Today download is an ecourse written by Amy Waterman, a professional writer in the area of relationships. She claims to have helped thousands of men and women bring love back into their marriages.

The book is designed to be a practical, easy-to-follow and comprehensive guide to help save a marriage. The author states she can help you get your marriage back on track even if you are the only one working on it. She spends a lot of time on how to control anger, stop arguments and solve conflicts in a healthy, proactive way.

This ebook is jam-packed with information. You can find advice on just about anything that couples have to deal with – from raising kids (and getting enjoyment from it) – to salvaging a marriage in trouble. Ms Waterman spends a lot of time advising how to make your marriage wonderful and arguments a thing of the past.

Also, on her website you will find a link to a free 6 day mini ecourse about what the 6 most common reasons for divorce are and how to stop them from happening to you.

Some of the tips you will find are:

* Discover how to get your spouse to fall back in love with you
* Stop cheating dead in its tracks
* Stop the negativity and fighting and learn to love your partner again
* Re-introduce passion into your relationship

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Research Results: Customer feedback supports the assumption that the Save My Marriage Today ebook has tried and tested strategies to help save a marriage and bring new life into it. There is useful advice that anyone who is on the verge of a break up or a marriage in trouble could use to turn their marriage around. For someone who is willing to make the effort there are plenty of ideas to reintroduce passion and revitalize a marriage that has gotten stale.

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Getting CPR For Marriage In Crisis – Save Your Marriage from Dying

By Carrie | 2009/06/22 18:21 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

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Do you remember your first kiss? When everything was so shiny and new and your relationship was so exciting and full of hope? That’s one of the reasons that it’s sad to see a marriage in crisis. You may wonder what has happened to all that hope and hearts bursting with love for each other.

When you first get married, you are just starting on your journey together. It’s hard to imagine that anything could drive you apart. When hard times come along your marriage may start to struggle. Couples can drift apart at times like these, but if you don’t want your marriage to die out, then you may need to get some C.P.R.

What you can do:

Go to Counseling:

Surprisingly counseling is often overlooked as a way to help. Counseling can not only help two people resolve conflicts but also help work out ways to grow closer to each other. Having a third party that is objective can help you come to an understanding of each other.

Counseling also offers a neutral ground to express yourself without it seeming to the other person that you are personally attacking them. You may uncover more serious issues in one spouse that will require more intense therapy. Sometimes one on one therapy may be needed in order to save your marriage.

You Need Perspective:

It can be hard to get perspective on what is happening when your marriage is in crisis. A marriage counselor can give you another perspective and help you more fully understand what is happening. You may think that you see everything clearly, but seeing things from a different angle will help you look at things from another point of view. It can help you gain the clarity you need to make sense of things.

You Need Resolve:

Getting some perspective on your situation and some help from a counselor can give you information and ideas to work on. Having a plan in mind that both parties are willing to work at, can get you started with repairing the damage to your marriage. It’s true that that knowing the problem is half the battle, but without the commitment to fight the battle, it won’t be won.

Think of it this way: you see someone drowning and you know how to save them because you not only can swim, but you know CPR. Will your knowledge save them from drowning? It will only if you act upon it.

Your marriage is the same way. It is going to take you taking action to resolve the issues plaguing your marriage. So, if you want to save your marriage in crisis, you must act to make things better.

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7 Tips That Can Help Save a Relationship

By Carrie | 2009/06/21 22:12 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

A couple in trouble: Steve has a demanding job and works long hours, which leaves Sarah feeling like he isn’t there for her. In turn, Sarah spends her days with the kids meeting their needs and Steve feels Sarah doesn’t have much time for him or care about his needs. What needs to be done to salvage this relationship? Should their marriage be saved? Check out these steps on how to save a relationship.

Decide if your relationship is worth saving. Both people need to want to make it work. It may take some work to save a marriage, and both partners must want to make it work. You can’t go it alone.
Define your reasons for staying in the relationship. Sometimes people stay because of children or because it’s convenient. That isn’t enough. Both of you have to be committed and believe your marriage is worth fighting for.
Find out what the problems are so you can work on them. It can be easy to focus on the symptoms and overlook the actual problem. For example, if a partner has an affair, then that may be looked upon as what caused a break up. In actuality, the affair indicates a deeper problem, like a lack of intimacy. Staying together without dealing with the intimacy problem is just asking for more trouble.
Once you have determined the real root of your problems then it’s a lot easier to communicate and share your thoughts and feelings. This takes each person opening up and verbalizing their feelings and really listening to their partner as well.
You have to be willing to open yourself up. Getting to the root of things may mean having to hear things from your partner than may hurt you. Or vice versa. This is not the time to become defensive, you both need to keep sight of your goal of trying to improve your marriage.Something as simple as holding your spouse’s hand while you are talking can help you stay connected even when things become emotional.
Next, is to make a plan of action. Figure out what steps you are going to take. Need more time together? Make Saturday night your date night, for example, and have some fun ideas of what you can do together. Maybe you feel like you are missing out on communicating with each other? Plan 15 minutes before bedtime as your time just to sit and talk with each other. And, stick to it. Get the idea?
Lastly, don’t forget that it will be an ongoing process to have a close relationship. Sometimes you will take a step or two back. But if you are working together, you should have more forward steps than backward ones. There will be times when you laugh, and times when you will cry. Be slow to blame your loved one and don’t be afraid to say you’re sorry.

These are key things to remember if you want to know how to save a relationship. Sometimes we all need a little help along the way – and help to get our focus on what brought us together with our partners. It can be easy to lose sight of why you fell in love with each other in the first place.

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The Magic of Making Up Review

By Carrie | 2009/06/18 21:13 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

If You Follow the Steps In The Magic of Making Up

You Will Get Your Ex Back!

Do you feel like you’ve lost all hope for future happiness? While that may sound dramatic, it’s a very real feeling if you broke up with your lover. If you’re like me when I got dumped, you are desperate for advice, any advice that will get you back with your ex. I want to share my thoughts on this book with you since it guarantees you will get your ex back if you follow the steps in the book!

The Magic of Making Up explains what mistakes people make after a breakup and why doing those things will drive your ex further away. For example, if you are texting them, calling them or emailing them all the time this is a big turn-off and makes your ex want to avoid you. Most of us have a compelling desire to try and get them to understand, because if you could just explain how much they mean to you they would let you come back – at least in our minds. Find out how the Magic of Making up will show you what you can do that will win back your ex…READ THE REST HERE…..CLICK HERE!

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5 Ways to Rebuild Trust After an Affair and Save Your Relationship

By Carrie | 2009/06/15 15:22 Posted in Articles, Save Your Marriage | Comments (0)

There is good and bad news if you are wondering if your relationship has a chance to survive after an affair. You’ll have to realize that it begins with you. When you cheated you destroyed trust, which is essential in any relationship. So, you’re probably wondering what the good news is. Take heart in knowing that it may be possible to recover your relationship. The bad part is that you are going to have to work to win your lover back.

Steps to Rebuilding trust:

1. The very first step is to vow to never have an affair again. If you cannot abstain from cheating, then your relationship does not have a chance. This article is written to help those who are serious about changing and making things right. Only then will you have a chance to save your relationship.

2. Next, if your partner doesn’t know, you need to admit that you had an affair. Even though it will really hurt them, you can’t live a lie and have trust in your relationship. In any case, the truth is likely to come out and it will be much worse if it comes from someone else instead of you. Keeping your affair a secret will only destroy your chances of staying in the relationship.

3. You will need to eat crow and accept the blame. Even if you feel that your partner caused you to want to cheat, there is nothing to be gained by blaming them. YOu have to own up to your own misdeeds. You need to get past the natural tendency people have to rationalize their wrong behaviors and come up with excuses.

4. You need to humbly apologize to your partner. No excuses, no explanations, just a real apology and a complete admission of wrongdoing is what is called for. You want them to know that you genuinely regret what you did and are honestly repentant.

5. Don’t push them, let them have their space. Your lover needs time to react, and deal with the hurt and pain of betrayal. You can’t force them to forgive you until they are ready to. Let them know you are there for them and are on their side by not forcing the issue. Trying to force things will only push them away.

You will have to accept that your relationship will be different after an affair. Think of it as getting a fresh start for your relationship. Rebuilding and winning their trust back will take time and patience.Your best shot will be to play it cool and have a step-by-step plan.

Find out what steps you can take for your best shot at winning your partner back here: Save your relationship.

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